All of the above aspects purely exists in our minds and are driven by emotions in one way or the other.
The start of a solution for all of us therefore is to be able to deal with the emotions to the benefit of ourselves.
The majority of us were not taught these skills as part of our upbringing and during any formal or informal education.
Emotional intelligence is a learn-able, measurable, scientifically validated skill-set that fuels better effectiveness, relationships, well-being and quality of life — for adults & children.
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head — it is the unique intersection of both.”
— David R. Caruso, co-author of the Mayer, Salovey, Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCEIT)
“Emotional intelligence is a burgeoning field for a simple reason: emotions resonate for everyone. It is the common denominator in all of our lives. We ignore emotional intelligence at our peril. Humans are, fundamentally, social animals, reliant on emotions as well as our intellects.”
–D’Souza, Granville. EQ From The Inside Out: Breakthrough Tools & Ideas for Living a Fulfilling Life. Six Seconds. Kindle Edition.
We can work with you in entering an era of utilising your Emotional Skills for a more satisfied life, a life where you can use your emotions, steering you towards calming waters.
Thoughts, Feelings, and Actions: In What Order?
Our thoughts, feelings, and actions rarely occur in a neat, linear fashion. There’s a dynamic interplay between them, and they can all be a catalyst for the other two. It’s commonly recognized that our thoughts affect feelings.
What’s often less understood is that our feelings also affect our thoughts. If you are afraid, you may look for and notice more threats. If you’re stressed or anxious, you will think an irritant is worse than you would if you were feeling happy.
Similarly, even actions affect thoughts and feelings. Just smiling, or taking a deep breath, calms our body and mind, changing how we think and feel.
People often confuse thoughts and feelings. An easy test is that if you catch yourself saying “like” or “as if”, like when we say “I feel like you weren’t listening,” that is a thought, not a feeling. It’s an evaluative observation. The feeling behind it may be something like, “I feel ignored.”
By understanding you’re Emotional Skills (ES) you can identify your Emotional strengths and areas for development.
Through coaching, you can then set improvement goals and identify actions to implement in developing your Emotional Skills.
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